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Trip report 6
Today is the day I hoped would never happen to me. A little back ground. Laurie was my wife, lover best friend and traveling partner for 22 years, what she ever saw in me Ill never know.
She was diagnosed with cancer 10 years ago the doctors at Mayo at that time said she only had six months to a year to live. Well we decided to live our life to the fullest. In that time we traveled all over the world she really liked the Islands and when we found St John she found her favorite place on this planet. Every time we went when we would step off the plane no matter how sick she had been it was like a get well card and she would enjoy her time there to the fullest.
Well 3 day's before our 22nd wedding anniversary Laurie died. It was her final wish to have some of her ashes spread at Hawksnest what became her favorite beach on her favorite island. She wanted select friends and family to be there most who couldn't get there when we had wanted to before for one reason or another.
So this morning I'm up at 3 sitting out under the star trying to figure out what to say knowing no matter what it is it won't express what she meant to me.
We are all going to meet at hawksnest at 7:30 it's a pretty somber morning getting ready this day. We get to the beach there isn't anyone else there we walk all the way down to the end. When I try to put into words what I want to say I think it comes out horrible but everyone else says it was great. They all take turns talking about her. It is quite cloudy so we all walk out into the water and spread her ashes together as we are finishing the sun comes out to another gorgeous day. We wanted to spend the day here but the waves are pounding in pretty hard and I know the new swimmers won't have a good time. So we decide to head some where else as we get to the parking lot 2 couples pull up one is going to get married there that morning. So one life ended and another life is just starting out it seemed fitting in some way.
We head over to Trunk the newbie's haven't been there yet. They don't charge us to get in because the water in the building is off for the day for repairs we get to the beach and it is rougher then Hawksnest. Get the standard pictures and decide to head over to Maho.
Maho is like glass we are the only ones on the beach so we unload the coolers and chairs and set up shop for the day.
Paul and I head out snorkeling there are fish every where never seen so many I think it is because we are the first to swim there that day. Not out to far when I see a Mora eel come up and ask him if he seen it he asks what it is of course I tell him the next thing I see is the backs of his flippers as he heads into shore.
So I continue on the snorkeling is the best that I've seen here the only thing I don't see are the tarpon that are there from time to time. Start heading back in and see a turtle feeding I dive down and take some pictures and float above it for about 15 min. hoping that he will swim off and I can get some video of him. No luck.
Head back to the others when I come across a ray. Get out of the water and every one has a head start on me with the bloodymarys and beers so I have to catch up. Paul decides to dig a hole to china or at least till he hits water.
We fill in the hole and head to Skinny legs for lunch. The food is great as always but some of the atmosphere is gone now with the hand held order takers and the new roof and paint job the waitress is crabby but we can deal with that. Everybody gets their favorite shirts.
We get back to the villa and lay around the pool till its time to get ready for our dinner at Lime Inn. We find parking close by tell you the truth we haven't had a problem with parking all week I don't know if it's because I've been there enough to know where to look or we are just lucky.
We get there and RJ says we can be seated right away but decide to have a drink first we are a half an hour early for our reservation for that reason and he says no problem.
The meal starts out with everyone ordering some apps. Paul and I share the mussels Wessy and Jeffery have the seafood sausage both a good but the mussels are out of this world Jeffery orders another order because they are so good and sopping up the sauce with the fresh bread is great.
Paul has the spicy shrimp over pasta he says it is great I have the tuna with wasabi it is out of this world most of the rest have the lobster and say it is great. After we are done we wonder around town again to take in the sights that are coming to an end way to fast only one full day left. Head back to the villa and watch the stars again cant get enough of that. We all decide which one is Laurie it has to be the brightest to match her personality Toast her and talk into the wee hours of the morning.
Thanks for listening
Tom
Thanks so much for sharing Waterguy. I think it's obvious what your wife saw in you.
I agree with Iowa. It's very obvious what Laurie saw in you...a loving man who loves life and those around him. I am so enjoying these reports. I'm almost as sad as you must have been that your week was coming to an end because that means we'll be done reading these wonderful reports.
wow that was great. thanks again for sharing your trip with us.
Thanks for sharing the story. You know, Water, I've gone to STJ during the best periods of my life. It's also a place I sought some refuge and comfort during the darkest period I hope I will ever have to know. There weren't many places where I could bear what I was having to cope with. It didn't help me to forget, but It helped in the healing. It's a good place. It's a deep place. There's a lot of history there and some of it is unfathomably sad. There's a whole lot more going on there than the party. I also was able to find some solace on the Aran islands and other places on the west coast of Ireland. Places that seem to have the power not to distract, but to actually absorb some of the pain and sadness. Sounds like you truly had a healing trip.
Thanks for sharing this special day with us, Tom. How fitting that you and your family/friends returned Laurie to the water....the source of all life...both here and in the afterworld. I'm not surprised that the seas were so energetic that morning. You had just given a great gift of energy and light.
I agree with the others - it is obvious hat she saw in you!
Sounds to me like your gal had great taste. All in the man, the island and the beach she loved. Thank you for sharing your story with us. I'll think of Laurie and smile everytime I visit Hawksnest.
Tom,
What a great way to celebrate Laurie & your life together. I have to agree with everyone else, Laurie was the lucky one to have you. Enjoy your last day of this trip...look forward to the report. Be looking at the stars tonight and thinking about a wonderful loving family and friends in St John doing the same.
Some stories you never forget and I won't forget your story. I haven't been to Hawksnest, but will this time and tell the story to my friends.
I too recently lost someone extremely close to me, so I understand how it feels.
Thanks for sharing your story with us... I imagine it was a very "healing" day for you to spend it on the island with your friends all enjoying her favorite places. I was born the same year as your wife and am a 17 yr cancer survivor, so I empathize with your story from the stand point of my own husband's fears and trials during my illness but, of course, with a different ending. I know what pain i always saw in his face and I know you must have suffered terribly. It is wonderful to see you enjoying yourself again and being embraced by the love of your friends and family in her "favorite place on the planet". Continued peace to you. Kathleen
I also thank you for bringing us along on this journey with you. I've enjoyed all of your reports. This one is so well done - you really touched my heart.
Thank you for sharing this story. It makes me want to live my life as you did. I don't want to worry about the little stuff. We head to STT in April and I will enjoy every minute to the fullest with my husband and my children. You have made me realize that it does not matter if I choose the perfect restaurant or that all of the plans are solid, I just have to enjoy the moment. You and your wife were so blessed to have each other. You are in my thoughts and prayers and I will think of your Laurie when I am looking over the beautiful ocean. Take care of yourself.
Ster
Waterguy-have been following your posts and they are a great read. What a poignant love story you have to tell the rest of us. We should all take heed. Godspeed. Kim
Good tip about checking in at the airport!! Thanks for sharing your trip with us.