Interesting question pnut.

I am your age and travel solo quite a bit. You'll feel and be very safe on STJ. Use your common sense about not strolling alone at night on dimly lit or unpopulated areas. Cruz bay seems very safe and always has people strolling around. Bars and restaurants are very close together - like a little village. Do you know where you are staying? There is a really cool looking luxury condo over Wharfside Village in Cruz Bay, sitting right on the water. It is called Crow's Nest. For someone without kids and who wants to be in Cruz Bay for the nightlife, it seems great. I only wonder how noisy it gets at night with the bars around it.

IMO, STJ and STT are not really good places for singles to hang out because the crowd tends to be couples/families OR singles on the serious prowl. If you are prowling, that might work. But for someone who just wants to kick back and get a little conversation going, it is hard.

If you are decent looking you will find lots of seemingly available men. I say seemingly because many end up being married. Now, you're looking for some conversation, not a husband, so the details may not matter so much...but I am giving the scenario I run into most often as an exammple.

Get ready to be sung to, have poetry recited to you, blah, blah, blah.... all very dramatic.

One sure fire way to get rid of the nonsense - ask them to buy you a drink - *poooof* they're off in a cloud of smoke ...LOL. (there seems to be an impression that single tourist women will buy drinks, meals and entertainment for local men in exchange for companionship and other things, so asking them to spend money on you will set that straight). Ok, this is NOT all local men, so please don't flame me if you are a local guy....I am simply speaking from my experience and from what has been explained to me by local men who are friends of mine.

I've seen tourists on STJ gather at Woody's and whatever Rhumbalaya is called now. No doubt you'll meet friendly people and have easy conversation. I just don't think many of the people will be single.

I'm curious about how others feel on this.

Hello Bluwater
First of all I want you to know how very much I enjoy your comments on all topics. I search for your name every time I log on. Secondly, I too have traveled alone, since I was in my 30's actually, lived on STT 6 months at Sapphire House, where else but Sapphire Beach, once you experience the USVI you remain a loyal fan. I'll be back in July, alone. I'v never had any problems,you can find what-ever you desire, that's up to the individual. It's very relaxing to go alone. Meeting people and having a wonderful time is easy. In a resort environment people are so friendly. I highly recommend solo travel

PS. your comments on the vills are invaluable, thank you ...thank you...
Best regards, Carla

Thanks for your kind words, Sleeper;) Good to meet another solo female traveler and fellow VI lover.

Where is Sapphire House? I think I've heard of it but can't place it. I agree about being a loyal fan of the VI. I also agree that meeting people is easy. I find the beaches to be the best places to meet others.

July huh? Hang in there! I usually go then and will probably be there so maybe we can catch up for a rum punch on Sapphire one day.

hi Jeri,
I gathered from your post that you want/need to just get away and forget about life for a while... there's a song there, isn't there? LOL Anyway... I stayed on STJ a couple of times as a single some years ago and loved it. I wasn't looking to hook up with anyone, was just looking to relax and have some fun. Both times I traveled to STJ alone, I met people that I hung out with and had vacations that are still on the top of my list. STJ is a wonderful island with wonderful people and lots to do. I've always found that places with lots of people on vacation are usually great to be at. I think if you go into it with no real expectations except to be staying on a gorgeous island with the most awesome beaches and some great restaurants and pubs, you'll go home with an awesome memory. Just my 2 cents!

crickett : )

Thank you for the advice. My mother passed away recently and my life as I have known it has completely changed. I was her care giver 24/7. My trip is a birthday present to myself and to just to unwind. I am not looking to hook up with anyone. I just want to relax and do things that I have never done before. Where do you suggest that I hang out. Beaches or the resort(Westin). What pubs or resturants do you recommend? Excursions? Things to do? I hope that this trip gives me a renewed sense of myself and life in general. Any information would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you
Jeri

Thanks Bluwater. I gladly accept any recommendations and words of advice. I have never traveled alone so this will be an adventure. Where are the best places to eat seeing how I hate to eat alone that are not so over priced. Do you think taking excursions are a waste of time. I am staying at the Westin so I hope the resort offers lots of activities. I love all kinds of music. Is there any live entertainment or concerts open to the public? What does the nightime consist of--Just hanging out in bars? What are the hours? Sorry to be rambling, I just want to know all that i can before arriving.

Thank you

Don't worry about being alone - each time I've traveled to St. John my husband and I have "adopted" or befriended someone traveling alone that we've clicked with. We end up going out to dinner, having drinks together or going on some excursions together. Since it's a small island, we see the same person hanging out with other sets of people too. Everyone is quite friendly. At the Westin, you can talk to Cruz Sports to book excursions and if you enjoy hiking, make a reservation with the National Park Service to take their tour (with 20-35 people, you're bound to meet up with lots of friendly folks.) Can't advise you about happy hours but there seemed to be plenty of happy people imbibing in the restaurant bars and making friends easily. There is limited shopping on the island since St. John is so small so if you're into doing some serious damage on your credit card head on over to St. Thomas.

I've collated a few pages of info from different message boards over the past two years so if you're interested I can forward them onto you.

You'll have a great time!

Lee

When dining alone, take a magazine, book, journal, laptop, etc. - that is if you have to eat at a table. Hey, you could write your trip report. Maybe they'll think you're some kind of restaurant critic and treat you extra special 🙂

Your best bet is to eat at places that will let you eat at the bar. Lots of single people eat at the bar and conversations are easy to strike up when the place is in a vacation destination. Like Lee points out, even couples will talk to you.

Woody's has a small bar area and really good pub style seafood. Rhumb Lines has a really nice bar with rope swings for seats. They are my fav restaurant on STJ. Most of the places I have been to have bars. I don't know about live music.

I don't think excursions aree a waste. They are a good way to get to know someplace and to meet people.

Bar hours are later than I stay out, so I don't know...probably close between 2 and 4am.

Lee,

Hi, My name is Jeri and I would appreciate any information that you have collected over the years. I am a little skeptical traveling alone. It might be easier to email me directly. My address is [email protected]. I would greatly appreciate any information you may have.

Have a great week and I look forward to reading the information.

Thank you

Jeri
I've sent you an email at your reguest but it was returned. Sooo I'm trying again, RE; solo traveling.
Sleeper18

Sleeper 18

My address is [email protected]. Plese forward any information you might find helpful to me. My sincere thanks.

Jeri

Jeri
I sent you a private message
Carla