First Lucky where are you staying. Is it a villa or something else. A sunset crusie then great dinner that you have ordered before so he dosen't have to make any choices

Hi WaterGuy,

I just made reservations last week for the Westin St. John. I am not sure if I should rent a car or not, but am open to ideas. A dinner cruise sounds nice. Have you been on a particular one?

There seems like SO many wonderful beaches and things to do, so it's hard to decide.

We have used St john yacht charters you can find the link at the top of the page. as for the car it's the only way to see St John go with a four wheel drive.

Great, thanks....

I am nervous about renting a car, but will definitely look into that as I want to be able to get around and have my freedom!

Just one man's opinion, but to get what you asked for .....

"You know how you see those scenes in the movie where it just oozes romance" ....

My thoughts are that it's not so much what you do with him, as much as HOW you do it with him. Remember - this is just the opinion of a monogamous man of 23-years-marriage to his high school sweetheart. Here's my best advice to you:

1. Wake up happy! Start the day with a positive attitude about the entire day. Say it out loud - how much you are looking forward to the day and spending it with him. Let him actually hear your excitement - not so much about the day - but about your day together.

2. Let him be wrong. Okay - so he says something wrong - and trivial. Let it be! He said your aunt is 65 when you know she's 67 - so what - just for today - don't correct him over that which really doesn't matter.

3. Touch him. Holding hands is a great demonstration of affection. Better still - take his arm. Really wrap yourself around it. Lay your head on his shoulder while you are just sitting, relaxing, taking in the beauty of the islands.

4. Let him catch you looking at him. Look at his eyes - when's the last time you really noticed their color? Keep your glaze just a second or two longer than normal. He'll catch it - eventually - and will say "what?". Just let him know that you're glad to be there with him. That's all he'll need to hear to make him happy.

5. Flirt with him. Remember when you were young, and dating? It's okay to act a little juvenile - remember your goal is to ooze romance.

6. There's a saying in business that "People who feel good about themselves, product good results". It's the same in relationships. Make him feel good about himself, and you'll have a great birthday (and beyond!!!) together. And - I'll bet he notices and reciprocates on your next birthday (or anniversary, or Valentine's Day, etc...).

You can't go wrong in the islands. There are so many beautiful sights and sounds there. Reflect that beauty in your demeanor, in your words, and in your relationship.

Good Luck - Have Fun!

Well done VI Lover, well done.

Lucky 13

The key is to not 'work' at it. Make the effort to do the things VIL suggests, but let it come across like you mean it as I'm sure you do.

You, the islands...seems like he has a wonderful birthday planned already.

While searching for a daysail to snorkel on our trip to STJ this past summer i ran across some daysails that you could continue on until sunset (or book them for the sunset cruise alone) with appetizers and cocktails. This might make a great all day outing or you could go for only the sunset cruise and follow it with dinner at one of the nicer places for dinner on STJ. (There should be plenty of suggestions for restaurants by looking back at previous subjects on this message board) This evening, of course, would be after an incredible day on one of the beautiful north shore beaches that is famous for being less crowded... Honeymoon comes to mind but honesty, they are all beautiful.

Wow, VILover, you made me tear up there. He's right ladies, a man's idea of romantic isn't necessarily OUR idea of romantic.

I'm seriously thinking about printing out your list and taping it to my bathroom mirror. I'm blessed to have Mr. Richmond in my life, it wouldn't hurt to let him know!!!